This quote might sound very strange to you, let me give you a relevant example.
I have seen partners who encourage their companions to pursue a better career or business instead of doomscrolling and wasting their time. Such a noble thought, right?
But the moment the companion genuinely starts something and indulges or engrosses deeper and becomes dissolved in the work, the partner who supported and encouraged will feel ignored and insecure. They will also become egoistic because they no longer have an opportunity to offer help and maintain their sense of superiority over someone who depended on them. The insecurity comes from the place where the partner is becoming or became self-sustainable and superior.
It's not only about partners — I've seen parents, colleagues, siblings, friends, mentors, gurus, founders, relatives, teachers, etc. fall into this trap.
They act as though they're motivating, supporting, and encouraging you until you outperform them or become independent. The moment you start becoming self-sustainable and their presence is no longer required, or if someone else supports you, then you’ll experience their true self. The saddest part is that they do all of this unconsciously, without awareness.
Sometimes the so-called "They" are nothing but "We."
Isn't it?
— SCD Balaji
