We often think conflicts in human relationships are unavoidable and natural, something we must simply endure. But if we truly accepted this truth by even 1%, humans would be the happiest species in the cosmos. The truth is, we neither accept it nor refuse it.
I often suggest this simple rule to troubleshoot flaws or conflicts in relationships for my mentees:
If you notice a behavioural malfunction, try to
Troubleshoot: If the person is receptive and ready to evolve, assist them in overcoming the challenge, provided you have the space, time and capacity to mentor with ego-less wisdom and care.
Embrace: If you are not wise enough to troubleshoot but truly respect, love and care for the person, embrace their flaws as they are, gracefully.
Endure: But if you’re neither in a state to embrace their flaws nor wise enough to mentor, endure responsibly.
Detach: If you cannot troubleshoot, embrace or endure, and if you’re also not in a position to walk away, then detach so that the other person’s flaws do not affect you. Quarantine emotionally.
Walk Away: If none of the above is possible then walk away, quit or exit.
But in reality, we keep juggling amidst all the options and confuse, blame ourselves and the other person, making it worse.
Do you lose “You” in the process of juggling?
— SCD Balaji
